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           understand that I am an officer and cannot be a wife to him
           in the same way that he had seen his mother be to his father.

           I used to wonder how the other married lady officers were
           managing their lives. I received many wise solutions and
           advice, such as hire a cook, employ a full-time maid servant,
           if you want to cook for your family the market is flooded with
           frozen and ready to use products, purchase already chopped
           vegetables, take full advantage of refrigerators and microwave
           ovens, cook at a time for 4 days and enjoy dining outside on
           weekends as you are financially independent, you see, women
           are better managers and so on and so forth.

           I started compromising the health of family and myself in order
           to try and maintain the balance of work and home duties. Stress
           started building up. Even after reaching home after work, the
           phone from the office kept ringing and while at the office, my
           mind gave the list of things to be done at home. Also, I was not
           at all comfortable with being the only lady officer posted in a
           unit of 10 male officers and 300 airmen.
           I  started  becoming  a  victim  of  anxiety,  depression,  panic
           attacks, and extreme stress. Although my husband was caring
           enough and advised me several times to quit the job and that
           his earnings were sufficient to live a decent life, I resisted the
           idea. I would think how I was going to face the society. By this
           time, my family life was almost at a standstill, as I was under
           severe stress and depression.

           Then by divine arrangement, I came across and started to
           read Śrīla Prabhupāda’s books. Prabhupāda’s words came like
           a hammer when I came across the phrase “Equality of men
           and women is a propaganda by men to fool women for their
           own benefit.” Things started to fall in place. I started to get
           more and more inner strength by reading His Divine Grace’s
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